Okay – I just have to start out by saying this: I am sitting in Starbucks right now and four people walked in: All girls. All of them immediately fixed their hair as they walked in…
Our society is so obsessed with appearance.
I know it has been for a long time, but perhaps, maybe (mayhaps) it is getting worse.
There are a few girls I know who I feel like only care about the way they look – and nothing else. To these girls, the absolute worst insult someone could possibly say about them would be: fat or ugly… Think about this for a second: Is ‘fat’ really the worse thing a human being could be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘boring’, or ‘shallow’? Also, it seems like someone losing weight or improving their appearance somehow is more of an accomplishment than getting a job, writing a book, or something similar. Am I the only one who thinks this?
I know it’s always talked about, but celebrities and models on television and magazines really do influence society. I’ll admit, my girl brain has been brainwashed to think that being pretty is something I should aspire to be. But that should be the least of our aspirations. If I ever have daughters, I would be worried. I would be worried that this ‘appearance obsessed’ world would make them empty-headed and self-obsessed like some of the girls I know. I’d rather they were ‘independent’, ‘idealistic’, ‘curious’, ‘kind’, ‘opinionated’, ‘funny’ and a hundred more things, before ‘thin’ or ‘pretty.’
Going to be a Harry Potter nerd for a sec. I would rather them be a ‘Hermione.’ Hermione is strong, smart, and independent.
There’s something else that bothers me, though. Guys. I feel like guys usually don’t fall for the ‘Hermiones’. And it’s partly society’s fault. Becca and I went to wing night with a couple of guy friends and we were discussing a girl I know who is obsessed with bras. So obsessed that she doesn’t mind spending $50 on a cute bra. She also stares at herself in the mirror and talks about how she looks constantly. According to those guys, there is “nothing wrong with that.” I tend to disagree. It is not okay to be so obsessed with your appearance. And let’s be honest. Most girls are obsessed with their appearance because they want attention from guys. How sad is that? The only aspiration in life – to look good so that guys will like you. Dude. That would suck.
I’m not trying to be a feminazi or anything, I’m just trying to create awareness about this. It really is sad. Something needs to be done.